This is easily the most difficult part of online dating. You need to piece together a snapshot of “you” that creates enough interest in the opposite sex for them to either (a) message you or (b) respond to your message. Here’s how:
Your picture is the first thing the people browsing you see. (1) Choose one that really shows you off. Ideally, you’ll be smiling. You’ll need more than one, so pick another that shows you doing something you love. Passion is a universal attractor. Guys, no shirtless pics. Girls, no bikini pics. No pics with an ex.
Continuing along with picture advice, (2) upload at least one picture that shows your full body. I don’t like to date girls that don’t take care of their body, and I know I’m not alone on this front. In the online dating world, there are few things worse than feeling you have a quality connection with someone that doesn’t look anything like his or her pictures. On that note, all pics should be CURRENT. I can’t stress this enough.
Hopefully at this point in life, you’ve realized that you’re not perfect. I’ve seen a lot of profiles written heavy on arrogant; your shit does stink. (3) Acknowledge this, because you can guaran-damn-tee that the man or woman reading it will. We’re not perfect, and most people playing the dating game understand this. That being said, don’t be afraid to highlight your imperfections. Self-deprecation is a solid form of humor. If you know how to use it, please do. If not, learn.
Avoid the cookie cutter, “I’m a very determined individual. I’m passionate, devoted, and loyal.” This is boring. I skip right past profiles filled with this nonsense. It’s not interesting or fun to read, and more importantly, it’s impersonal. (4) Share experiences. Tell me a clif-notes version of a story that illustrates your passion, devotion, or loyalty. People don’t relate to the word ‘loyalty’; they relate to that one time you pushed your best friend out of the way at the bar and took the hit instead. This is something you can send or receive a message about.
This sounds like common sense, but (5) be honest. Assuming you’re serious about meeting people, you will eventually end up with a date. He or she is going to verify your profile. If you tell a lie on your profile, you’re either going to have to fess up when the question surfaces on a date or keep lying. Save face now and just don’t do it.
(6) Don’t give your life story. If the first few dates go well, your date will have plenty of time to learn all the little details later. Pick and choose important and interesting bits of your life to share. People don’t want to read a ridiculously long profile, and you want to retain at least some mystery.
